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I’m a 32 yr. female…adopted in North Carolina all i know is my mom was a prostitute and killed in atlanta , Ga….this is all the info i have and can get….. where do i go from here? Please send email. Thanks

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Who told you that? Your aparents? Maybe it’s true, maybe it isn’t. It does sound like one of those awful stories told to discourage search. But if you’ve come to terms with that, you’ll probably be able to handle it if she turns out to be alive and a top executive at Phillip Morris who relaxes at lesbian leather bars on the weekends. Or a prizewinning Jello-recipe developer with 6 kids and a goat farm in rural Missouri. Or a trailblazing woman-lumberjack. Or a plus-size model with 2 illegitimate children who she kept who also breeds pug dogs. The possibilities are limitless. Damsel Damsel Plum Co-founder & Publications Chair BASTARD NATION http://www.bastards.org

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Please do not use any of those commercial search services they are all a rip off. There are other ways around using vultures who pray on the pain of people involved in an adoption situation. Audrey do you work for 1800 Ussearch and why would you reccomend them to anyone?? Karen

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You should call 1800 ussearch. They are good at finding people. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I’m a 32 yr. female…adopted in North Carolina all i know is my mom was a prostitute and killed in atlanta , Ga….this is all the info i have and can get….. where do i go from here? Please send email. Thanks Diane, First and foremost write to your state’s social services post-adoption unit office, or the agency that handled your adoption, and request your non-id info. Register with ISRR. And go to "Shea’s Search Series" (an excellent search/reunion resource, and the place to start) to know how to proceed with your search. Good luck! Cheryl, reunited adoptee Arizona State Director, Bastard Nation Shea’s Search Series: http://www.plumsite.com/shea/series.html ISRR: http://www.plumsite.com/isrr/ Vital Records Info: http://vitalrec.com/index.html Volunteer Search Network: http://www.vsn.org/ Voices of Adoption: http://www.ibar.com/voices/./ C.A.R.E. http://www.reunionregistry.org/ Bastard Nation (contacts by state): http://www.bastards.org/activism/contacts.htm

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Oh God Damz… that made me laugh my head off !! (or as some here say ROTFLO, or whatever it is) Images of pug eyeballs rolling on the carpet, while traumatized children run screaming from the house. Heh heh.

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I agree with Damz, sounds like a "story" to me. In fact, all you are missing is the famous car crash addition, and then you’d really have the quintessential adoptive parent fairy tale told to potentially ungrateful adoptees who might think of searching for their birthfamily. Course, it *could* all be true, (I actually know a foster mom who’s foster son has a birthmom that was and still IS a prostitute/drug addict), but I sure wouldn’t take anyone other than your birthmother’s word for it. Since she may be dead, the word of someone she knew would also be helpful. Time to do some investigating on your own NC adoptee. Get your non-id info, and see what you can find out from there. This site will help to get you started: <http://www.plumsite.com/shea/series.html Good luck!

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Or a plus-size model with 2 illegitimate children who she kept who also breeds pug dogs. The possibilities are limitless. Damzy…dear one! Just how the hell do illegitimate children get to breed Pugs?! <vbeg

I LOVE PUGS!!!!!! My hubby won’t let me get one because he says he is afraid that their eyes will fall out of their head onto the carpet and traumatize the children. geez – talk about morbid imagination… ;P Hi Patty!!! Damzy Damsel Plum Co-founder & Publications Chair BASTARD NATION http://www.bastards.org

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<<I LOVE PUGS!!!!!! My hubby won’t let me get one because he says he is afraid that their eyes will fall out of their head onto the carpet and traumatize the children. geez – talk about morbid imagination… Well, sometimes their eyes do fall out, but all you have to do is pop them back in. Not that I’d want to do that… I guess I’ll stick to my cats.

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Diane, First and foremost write to your state’s social services post-adoption unit office, or the agency that handled your adoption, and request your non-id info. Register with ISRR. And go to "Shea’s Search Series" (an excellent search/reunion resource, and the place to start) to know how to proceed with your search. Good luck! Cheryl, reunited adoptee Arizona State Director, Bastard Nation Shea’s Search Series: http://www.plumsite.com/shea/series.html ISRR: http://www.plumsite.com/isrr/ Vital Records Info: http://vitalrec.com/index.html Volunteer Search Network: http://www.vsn.org/ Voices of Adoption: http://www.ibar.com/voices/./ C.A.R.E. http://www.reunionregistry.org/ Bastard Nation (contacts by state): http://www.bastards.org/activism/contacts.htm

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