Just wanted some advise

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i DO shut it off for job interviews only<

And if it beeps during sex? — Gentleman Jim A Country Boy and Southern Gentleman http://home.earthlink.net/~jimedharrison/ God created me in His image and gave His son that my sins would be forgiven. Please don’t think that you can create a better me than God did, or that you should be any less forgiving. The grass is always greener around the lagoon and over the septic tank. If you’re going to jump the fence, you will probably fall into one or the other.

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Personally, my ex drove me insane because he always answered his cell phone. At mealtime, at night, at the crack of dawn….just in case there was a vacation problem to attend to. I felt like I came second to that damn phone and I would have liked to smash it. I never did. I think that I personally would insist someone left the cell phone and pagers at home when we went out….unless that person is a doctor on call. Okay…now I *know* that we were married to the same person! LOL, Karin i always carry my pager so my kids can reach me…. they are important, no matter what.. but then, my boyfriend is the one who GAVE me the pager… i’m glad to be with someone who supports my "motherhood", what there is of it anyway… couldn’t be any other way, really… i DO shut it off for job interviews only, but i tell the kids ahead of time.

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Oh…definately throw it against the wall. Sex? What’s that? – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – i DO shut it off for job interviews only< And if it beeps during sex? — Gentleman Jim A Country Boy and Southern Gentleman http://home.earthlink.net/~jimedharrison/ God created me in His image and gave His son that my sins would be forgiven. Please don’t think that you can create a better me than God did, or that you should be any less forgiving. The grass is always greener around the lagoon and over the septic tank. If you’re going to jump the fence, you will probably fall into one or the other. Personally, my ex drove me insane because he always answered his cell phone. At mealtime, at night, at the crack of dawn….just in case there was a vacation problem to attend to. I felt like I came second to that damn phone and I would have liked to smash it. I never did. I think that I personally would insist someone left the cell phone and pagers at home when we went out….unless that person is a doctor on call. Okay…now I *know* that we were married to the same person! LOL, Karin i always carry my pager so my kids can reach me…. they are important, no matter what.. but then, my boyfriend is the one who GAVE me the pager… i’m glad to be with someone who supports my "motherhood", what there is of it anyway… couldn’t be any other way, really… i DO shut it off for job interviews only, but i tell the kids ahead of time.

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i DO shut it off for job interviews only< And if it beeps during sex?

that hasn’t happened yet!! I mean the "beeped during" part..

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Sex during a job interview is a big faux pas… <

Well, Kathryn, I once did a job interview during sex and….. hmmm……shucks, I was flattered when she said later that I had a big faux pas. — Gentleman Jim A Country Boy and Southern Gentleman http://home.earthlink.net/~jimedharrison/ God created me in His image and gave His son that my sins would be forgiven. Please don’t think that you can create a better me than God did, or that you should be any less forgiving. The grass is always greener around the lagoon and over the septic tank. If you’re going to jump the fence, you will probably fall into one or the other.

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – i DO shut it off for job interviews only< And if it beeps during sex? Sex during a job interview is a big faux pas… —– Kathryn Litherland | People make their own history Latin American Studies Program | but they do not make it under University of Illinois, Chicago | circumstances of their own choosing | –Karl Marx, _The 18th Brumaire_

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Sex during a job interview is a big faux pas… < Well, Kathryn, I once did a job interview during sex and….. hmmm……shucks, I was flattered when she said later that I had a big faux pas.

Uh, what "position" were you interviewing for? (And, you do know that "faux" can mean fake, right?) —– Kathryn Litherland | People make their own history Latin American Studies Program | but they do not make it under University of Illinois, Chicago | circumstances of their own choosing | –Karl Marx, _The 18th Brumaire_

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Ok, and is he 5 ft 4, skinny and balding? Is he a workaholic, happiest at the office feeling self important? Does he view himself a computer genius? Does he refuse to eat fish or drink milk? Does he wear socks in his sandals and only wear shorts if you badger for days and the temp is 33 or above? Do do…..do do…..do do….you are now entering….the twilight zone….. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Personally, my ex drove me insane because he always answered his cell phone. At mealtime, at night, at the crack of dawn….just in case there was a vacation problem to attend to. I felt like I came second to that damn phone and I would have liked to smash it. I never did. I think that I personally would insist someone left the cell phone and pagers at home when we went out….unless that person is a doctor on call. Okay…now I *know* that we were married to the same person! LOL, Karin — "Circumstances do not make a person, they reveal him or her." –Richard Carlson

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Hey….I understand kids and emergencies. I suppose your kids know not to abuse the thing. And you have found a gem of a man who understands how important it is to be a mother to your kids. Give that man a big hug. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Personally, my ex drove me insane because he always answered his cell phone. At mealtime, at night, at the crack of dawn….just in case there was a vacation problem to attend to. I felt like I came second to that damn phone and I would have liked to smash it. I never did. I think that I personally would insist someone left the cell phone and pagers at home when we went out….unless that person is a doctor on call. Okay…now I *know* that we were married to the same person! LOL, Karin i always carry my pager so my kids can reach me…. they are important, no matter what.. but then, my boyfriend is the one who GAVE me the pager… i’m glad to be with someone who supports my "motherhood", what there is of it anyway… couldn’t be any other way, really… i DO shut it off for job interviews only, but i tell the kids ahead of time.

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hello Everyone Just wanted some advise I have a new co-worker and I started to like her personality. We became real good friends we laugh at jokes tell jokes and stuff. We started going out and we both started having fun. so she initiated mostly on fridays that she wants to go out. I can’t believe how much guy friends she has. she has this beeper and Jesus her beeper just keeps buzzing and buzzing. Oh stay here I gotta use the phone. She would repeat this throughout the whole night all the way to like 4:00 in the morning. What I know is that she has about 8 guy friends or more. You see I’m divorced for 2 years now I have 2 kids in custody.I’m 29 years Old. Shes 7 years younger You see I’m not sure if I’m developing feelings for her. I Know I’m not. I’m just so irritated this one time we went out that she just keeps kissing guys on their cheeks left and right and beeper just goes on and on. she communicates through the pager so that you can just look at numbers and translate into words. wherever we go she knows someone and they are all guys. should I stop going out with her? Because You see I don’t want to feel like I’m cheap. Yo know I workout and I look pretty young for my age and thats what alot of people say. They say I’m good looking and should be modeling for calvin Klein underwear. My self esteem is fine. I love myself. I’m really feeling low even if I’m not persuing a relationship with her which I know Is far from my mind. Because The way I see it is she just keeps searching and searching until maybe the right person comes along. You know I really like her Personality but in reality we will never be. I don’t want to make it obvious that I like her of course at the office theres alot of flirting going on but thats flirting not to go anywhere. anyways I really want to just completely stop going out with her because I feel like its just gonna hurt later. But if she ask me out again what will I say or what will I do. can someone give me an honest advise please?? am i being used?? Thanks

It seems to me that she likes you as a friend and that is it.She is only 22 and probably still has an active social life. You could just ask her how she sees you. As a friend or maybe more than a friend. Loev, Poopie Pants

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i always carry my pager so my kids can reach me…. they are important, no matter what.. but then, my boyfriend is the one who GAVE me the pager… i’m glad to be with someone who supports my "motherhood", what there is of it anyway… couldn’t be any other way, really… i DO shut it off for job interviews only, but i tell the kids ahead of time.

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Personally, my ex drove me insane because he always answered his cell phone. At mealtime, at night, at the crack of dawn….just in case there was a vacation problem to attend to. I felt like I came second to that damn phone and I would have liked to smash it. I never did. I think that I personally would insist someone left the cell phone and pagers at home when we went out….unless that person is a doctor on call.

Okay…now I *know* that we were married to the same person! LOL, Karin — "Circumstances do not make a person, they reveal him or her." –Richard Carlson

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Does her behaviour make you uncomfortable? Even a little bit? If so then its probably always going to make you uncomfortable and you should move on. Not to be mean to you……but someone who enjoys playing the field is going to stay that way. There isn’t anything wrong with that. If you want to be part of the "field" then its all fine. Really. But when YOU are looking to be a someone special, and she is looking to be with a whole TEAM….then there is troubles. Figure out where you are at and if its in the same league as she is. If you are in different conferences….move on till you find someone closer to your own ideals. It will save you heartache, really. I can’t say if she is using you….I’d have to know her. Personally, my ex drove me insane because he always answered his cell phone. At mealtime, at night, at the crack of dawn….just in case there was a vacation problem to attend to. I felt like I came second to that damn phone and I would have liked to smash it. I never did. I think that I personally would insist someone left the cell phone and pagers at home when we went out….unless that person is a doctor on call. Just my own beliefs. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – thanks for all your advise On cheryll’s advise I would like to comment on You were pretty harsh on your comments. I believe that you were probably a victim in the pass that you have such strong angry feelings towards people who needs help. your not a compassionate person rather a hypocrite and a very judgemental person. You are very poor in analizing situations and you indeed a poor unfit counselor. You should’nt be posting unless you know it will help people. because your a female i think you are defending your kind therefore that makes you sexist. I have met many women I never had a problem like this one. Not many women would kiss counless guys in a date. you probably kissed one or two but what if you actually kissed a dozen I mean non-stop throghout the whole night. she Only has Guy freinds. Shes just very friendly. What about the beeps and geting left alone in the table alone every 5, 10 or 30 minutes all the way through the night. Shes being polite by returning beeps. How would you feel. and everywhere you go she would have long talks with them and I get bored and the night just drags on . We had fun though and that really mean alot to me. is just that it was’nt perfect!! too much interuptions. As you can see I accept her of who she is. I Don’t like changing people this is like changing an apple into an orange it will never happen. Just the fact that I don’t want to ruin a freindship or relationship at work by just saying things because i feel them. some of us put our feelings on hold until we can figure it out. I think before I talk. A decent person makes decisions based on whats right and whats wrong not because how you feel. Because feelings comes and go. People can Only take so much and that is the truth about being Human. I can’t loose my temper on a date. I have to think where I stand in the relationship. I have no right to tell her to stop using her beeper because it will ruin the night. I ask her are you irritated by your beeper. She said "yes I’m really mad" then I followed up "Me too". But we still allow the beeper to be on. We try to accept everyting along the way , flowing with Life. But when people are upset it could mean alot. It could be that you had it. You were not getting your way . On my part I just had it. No one in this world is so called super matured or super confident. These are the things that we are all gonna practice for the rest of our lives. There will always be New situations in our lives that will challenge Us and when we loose track we ask for advise not Criticism. No one is perfect and you should not assume that people have low self esteem. Because You never met me, You don’t know me so your assuming Lady. Also you have no right to tell me what I like and what i don’t like. Also by giving advise you really showed an immature way of dealing with people who are different from your perspective way of seeing things. well anyways Loyd thanks for your advise I appreciate it and the others that made me realize. to cheryll I think you should be careful with assumptions you should be reading a book based on "How to give advise to peolple" laters JAMES Agreeing with the others, she isn’t your type. Another point I wanted to add is, even though you made note of your high self esteem, you don’t seem to actually possess it, along with a minimal level of emotional maturity. Had you possessed both of these you would have simply been straightforward with her as soon as the pages became a problem. You also mentioned she kisses men on the cheek. I do that, I know other women who do that. Few men are unable to cope with that, and those are, again, the men who indeed have a poor self image, and/or are emotionally immature/insecure in their own masculinity. You chose to pretend there is no problem and get on a newsgroup to ask advice, knowing your feelings already. This is a clear illustration to all who read your post of what I’ve just told you. I know it may sting a bit, but in time you will realize you either have to accept people for who they are, or let them know your true feelings. Hello Everyone Just wanted some advise I have a new co-worker and I started to like her personality. We became real good friends we laugh at jokes tell jokes and stuff. We started going out and we both started having fun. so she initiated mostly on fridays that she wants to go out. I can’t believe how much guy friends she has. she has this beeper and Jesus her beeper just keeps buzzing and buzzing. Oh stay here I gotta use the phone. She would repeat this throughout the whole night all the way to like 4:00 in the morning. What I know is that she has about 8 guy friends or more. You see I’m divorced for 2 years now I have 2 kids in custody.I’m 29 years Old. Shes 7 years younger You see I’m not sure if I’m developing feelings for her. I Know I’m not. I’m just so irritated this one time we went out that she just keeps kissing guys on their cheeks left and right and beeper just goes on and on. she communicates through the pager so that you can just look at numbers and translate into words. wherever we go she knows someone and they are all guys. should I stop going out with her? Because You see I don’t want to feel like I’m cheap. Yo know I workout and I look pretty young for my age and thats what alot of people say. They say I’m good looking and should be modeling for calvin Klein underwear. My self esteem is fine. I love myself. I’m really feeling low even if I’m not persuing a relationship with her which I know Is far from my mind. Because The way I see it is she just keeps searching and searching until maybe the right person comes along. You know I really like her Personality but in reality we will never be. I don’t want to make it obvious that I like her of course at the office theres alot of flirting going on but thats flirting not to go anywhere. anyways I really want to just completely stop going out with her because I feel like its just gonna hurt later. But if she ask me out again what will I say or what will I do. can someone give me an honest advise please?? am i being used?? Thanks

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She isn’t for you. Forget about her. Karen – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -LonelyEyes < writes: Hello Everyone Just wanted some advise I have a new co-worker and I started to like her personality. We became real good friends we laugh at jokes tell jokes and stuff. We started going out and we both started having fun. so she initiated mostly on fridays that she wants to go out. I can’t believe how much guy friends she has. she has this beeper and Jesus her beeper just keeps buzzing and buzzing. Oh stay here I gotta use the phone. She would repeat this throughout the whole night all the way to like 4:00 in the morning. What I know is that she has about 8 guy friends or more. You see I’m divorced for 2 years now I have 2 kids in custody.I’m 29 years Old. Shes 7 years younger You see I’m not sure if I’m developing feelings for her. I Know I’m not. I’m just so irritated this one time we went out that she just keeps kissing guys on their cheeks left and right and beeper just goes on and on. she communicates through the pager so that you can just look at numbers and translate into words. wherever we go she knows someone and they are all guys. should I stop going out with her? Because You see I don’t want to feel like I’m cheap. Yo know I workout and I look pretty young for my age and thats what alot of people say. They say I’m good looking and should be modeling for calvin Klein underwear. My self esteem is fine. I love myself. I’m really feeling low even if I’m not persuing a relationship with her which I know Is far from my mind. Because The way I see it is she just keeps searching and searching until maybe the right person comes along. You know I really like her Personality but in reality we will never be. I don’t want to make it obvious that I like her of course at the office theres alot of flirting going on but thats flirting not to go anywhere. anyways I really want to just completely stop going out with her because I feel like its just gonna hurt later. But if she ask me out again what will I say or what will I do. can someone give me an honest advise please?? am i being used?? Thanks

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thanks for all your advise On cheryll’s advise I would like to comment on You were pretty harsh on your comments. I believe that you were probably a victim in the pass that you have such strong angry feelings towards people who needs help. your not a compassionate person rather a hypocrite and a very judgemental person. You are very poor in analizing situations and you indeed a poor unfit counselor. You should’nt be posting unless you know it will help people. because your a female i think you are defending your kind therefore that makes you sexist. I have met many women I never had a problem like this one. Not many women would kiss counless guys in a date. you probably kissed one or two but what if you actually kissed a dozen I mean non-stop throghout the whole night. she Only has Guy freinds. Shes just very friendly. What about the beeps and geting left alone in the table alone every 5, 10 or 30 minutes all the way through the night. Shes being polite by returning beeps. How would you feel. and everywhere you go she would have long talks with them and I get bored and the night just drags on . We had fun though and that really mean alot to me. is just that it was’nt perfect!! too much interuptions. As you can see I accept her of who she is. I Don’t like changing people this is like changing an apple into an orange it will never happen. Just the fact that I don’t want to ruin a freindship or relationship at work by just saying things because i feel them. some of us put our feelings on hold until we can figure it out. I think before I talk. A decent person makes decisions based on whats right and whats wrong not because how you feel. Because feelings comes and go. People can Only take so much and that is the truth about being Human. I can’t loose my temper on a date. I have to think where I stand in the relationship. I have no right to tell her to stop using her beeper because it will ruin the night. I ask her are you irritated by your beeper. She said "yes I’m really mad" then I followed up "Me too". But we still allow the beeper to be on. We try to accept everyting along the way , flowing with Life. But when people are upset it could mean alot. It could be that you had it. You were not getting your way . On my part I just had it. No one in this world is so called super matured or super confident. These are the things that we are all gonna practice for the rest of our lives. There will always be New situations in our lives that will challenge Us and when we loose track we ask for advise not Criticism. No one is perfect and you should not assume that people have low self esteem. Because You never met me, You don’t know me so your assuming Lady. Also you have no right to tell me what I like and what i don’t like. Also by giving advise you really showed an immature way of dealing with people who are different from your perspective way of seeing things. well anyways Loyd thanks for your advise I appreciate it and the others that made me realize. to cheryll I think you should be careful with assumptions you should be reading a book based on "How to give advise to peolple" laters JAMES – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Agreeing with the others, she isn’t your type. Another point I wanted to add is, even though you made note of your high self esteem, you don’t seem to actually possess it, along with a minimal level of emotional maturity. Had you possessed both of these you would have simply been straightforward with her as soon as the pages became a problem. You also mentioned she kisses men on the cheek. I do that, I know other women who do that. Few men are unable to cope with that, and those are, again, the men who indeed have a poor self image, and/or are emotionally immature/insecure in their own masculinity. You chose to pretend there is no problem and get on a newsgroup to ask advice, knowing your feelings already. This is a clear illustration to all who read your post of what I’ve just told you. I know it may sting a bit, but in time you will realize you either have to accept people for who they are, or let them know your true feelings. Hello Everyone Just wanted some advise I have a new co-worker and I started to like her personality. We became real good friends we laugh at jokes tell jokes and stuff. We started going out and we both started having fun. so she initiated mostly on fridays that she wants to go out. I can’t believe how much guy friends she has. she has this beeper and Jesus her beeper just keeps buzzing and buzzing. Oh stay here I gotta use the phone. She would repeat this throughout the whole night all the way to like 4:00 in the morning. What I know is that she has about 8 guy friends or more. You see I’m divorced for 2 years now I have 2 kids in custody.I’m 29 years Old. Shes 7 years younger You see I’m not sure if I’m developing feelings for her. I Know I’m not. I’m just so irritated this one time we went out that she just keeps kissing guys on their cheeks left and right and beeper just goes on and on. she communicates through the pager so that you can just look at numbers and translate into words. wherever we go she knows someone and they are all guys. should I stop going out with her? Because You see I don’t want to feel like I’m cheap. Yo know I workout and I look pretty young for my age and thats what alot of people say. They say I’m good looking and should be modeling for calvin Klein underwear. My self esteem is fine. I love myself. I’m really feeling low even if I’m not persuing a relationship with her which I know Is far from my mind. Because The way I see it is she just keeps searching and searching until maybe the right person comes along. You know I really like her Personality but in reality we will never be. I don’t want to make it obvious that I like her of course at the office theres alot of flirting going on but thats flirting not to go anywhere. anyways I really want to just completely stop going out with her because I feel like its just gonna hurt later. But if she ask me out again what will I say or what will I do. can someone give me an honest advise please?? am i being used?? Thanks

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Agreeing with the others, she isn’t your type. Another point I wanted to add is, even though you made note of your high self esteem, you don’t seem to actually possess it, along with a minimal level of emotional maturity. Had you possessed both of these you would have simply been straightforward with her as soon as the pages became a problem. You also mentioned she kisses men on the cheek. I do that, I know other women who do that. Few men are unable to cope with that, and those are, again, the men who indeed have a poor self image, and/or are emotionally immature/insecure in their own masculinity. You chose to pretend there is no problem and get on a newsgroup to ask advice, knowing your feelings already. This is a clear illustration to all who read your post of what I’ve just told you. I know it may sting a bit, but in time you will realize you either have to accept people for who they are, or let them know your true feelings.

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hello Everyone Just wanted some advise I have a new co-worker and I started to like her personality. We became real good friends we laugh at jokes tell jokes and stuff. We started going out and we both started having fun. so she initiated mostly on fridays that she wants to go out. I can’t believe how much guy friends she has. she has this beeper and Jesus her beeper just keeps buzzing and buzzing. Oh stay here I gotta use the phone. She would repeat this throughout the whole night all the way to like 4:00 in the morning. What I know is that she has about 8 guy friends or more. You see I’m divorced for 2 years now I have 2 kids in custody.I’m 29 years Old. Shes 7 years younger You see I’m not sure if I’m developing feelings for her. I Know I’m not. I’m just so irritated this one time we went out that she just keeps kissing guys on their cheeks left and right and beeper just goes on and on. she communicates through the pager so that you can just look at numbers and translate into words. wherever we go she knows someone and they are all guys. should I stop going out with her? Because You see I don’t want to feel like I’m cheap. Yo know I workout and I look pretty young for my age and thats what alot of people say. They say I’m good looking and should be modeling for calvin Klein underwear. My self esteem is fine. I love myself. I’m really feeling low even if I’m not persuing a relationship with her which I know Is far from my mind. Because The way I see it is she just keeps searching and searching until maybe the right person comes along. You know I really like her Personality but in reality we will never be. I don’t want to make it obvious that I like her of course at the office theres alot of flirting going on but thats flirting not to go anywhere. anyways I really want to just completely stop going out with her because I feel like its just gonna hurt later. But if she ask me out again what will I say or what will I do. can someone give me an honest advise please?? am i being used?? Thanks

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OK, so she has lots of guy friends. Surely she could not be sleeping with ALL of them! Well, at least not all at once! Having said that, I don’t think you are being used, necessarily. Remember SHE asked YOU out! So, IMHO, YOU are in control! If SHE askes you out again, TELL THE TRUTH! My how radical! BE HONEST! Tell her that you would like to go out again (if that is the truth), but that you were quite offended that her beeper kept going off all night the last time you went out! It is one thing if a group of friends go out, it is another if SHE asks YOU. Tell her that you want to get to know HER better and a chance to kick back and relax after a tough weeks work – and that you have a hard time doing that when she is CONSTANTLY answering "pages"! IMHO, if this woman cannot turn off the pager for a night and focus on YOU as her date, then DUMP HER! Tell her you are not interested! I recall a couple of Chirstmases ago, my neice-in-law (18 at that time) came to the family Christmas dinner. When she sat at the table, she put her Cellular Phone on the table by her plate – turned ON! Well, I understand her pride as she had just recently got a fairly good paying job. No doubt she wanted to show off how adult she was becoming! However, in one of my s2bx’s few moments of clear thinking, she reached across the table, grabbed the phone, turned it off, and put it in one of the buffet drawers! She said: "You are not a Dr., Jenny. There is NO CALL you could possible receive in the next two hours that is so important that you will disrupt our family’s Chrismas dinner!" (Name changed to protect the guilty!) This 22 year old "woman" seems to be demonstrating about the same maturity level as my niece-in-law. Is her self-esteem so low that she has to constantly be able to show off that she is in demand???? I would tell her that if she is not willing to turn-off that pager off one night of her life, that she can seek the company of someone else! I would suggest that she might be good for a roll in the hay, but nothing kills the mood faster than having to stop for her to answer the pager! LOL! And as for "flirting" at work… I would be REAL CAREFUL. Here in BC, Canada, we have a "human rights code". That should read "Woman’s right’s" code! Here, if a woman "feels" that you have been harrassing her, all she need do is make a single complaint to your boss! That one complaint can have you fired for "just cause" faster than you can blink an eye! If you are fired for "just cause" you do not get unemployment benefits! And if YOU choose to fight it – it goes to a "Human Rights" tribunal. Oh yeah, I forgot to mention than the "judges" in "Human Rights" tribunals are POLITICAL Appointees with NO legal training and usually femminists with an axe to grind against MEN! "Human Rights" tribunals have re-invented LAW! Here, there are no "rules of evidence", you do NOT have the right to "face your accuser(s)", and you ARE guilty until proven innocent! I have seen men here loose jobs they held for 20+ years because some young "femminst" who gets hired takes offense at some off-hand comment and then files a complaint! I know this is hard to believe, but I HAVE SEEN IT HAPPEN! And this whole process is kept REAL QUIET by the Govenment here – "We have to protect the ‘victims’ of workplace harrassment!" the politicians proclaim! But they have no problem if the name of an "accused" harrasser is plastered all over the front page of the newspaper! Oh well, enough venting… By "flirting" at work, you may be opening the door for a potentially vengeful woman to destroy you! How easy do you think it would be to get another job if the word got out that you were fired for "sexual harrassment"???? That could be one complaint away, my friend! Your mileage MAY vary. Check the laws in YOUR state, province, country! If in doubt, check the Company’s POLICY manual! Basically – COVER YOUR A$$! My bottom line – workplace "flirting" or "romance" is verbotten! Do so at your own risk! Just my $0.02 Lloyd Before you buy.

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Hello Everyone Just wanted some advise I have a new co-worker and I started to like her personality. We became real good friends we laugh at jokes tell jokes and stuff. We started going out and we both started having fun. so she initiated mostly on fridays that she wants to go out. I can’t believe how much guy friends she has. she has this beeper and Jesus her beeper just keeps buzzing and buzzing. Oh stay here I gotta use the phone. She would repeat this throughout the whole night all the way to like 4:00 in the morning. What I know is that she has about 8 guy friends or more. You see I’m divorced for 2 years now I have 2 kids in custody.I’m 29 years Old. Shes 7 years younger You see I’m not sure if I’m developing feelings for her. I Know I’m not. I’m just so irritated this one time we went out that she just keeps kissing guys on their cheeks left and right and beeper just goes on and on. she communicates through the pager so that you can just look at numbers and translate into words. wherever we go she knows someone and they are all guys. should I stop going out with her? Because You see I don’t want to feel like I’m cheap. Yo know I workout and I look pretty young for my age and thats what alot of people say. They say I’m good looking and should be modeling for calvin Klein underwear. My self esteem is fine. I love myself. I’m really feeling low even if I’m not persuing a relationship with her which I know Is far from my mind. Because The way I see it is she just keeps searching and searching until maybe the right person comes along. You know I really like her Personality but in reality we will never be. I don’t want to make it obvious that I like her of course at the office theres alot of flirting going on but thats flirting not to go anywhere. anyways I really want to just completely stop going out with her because I feel like its just gonna hurt later. But if she ask me out again what will I say or what will I do. can someone give me an honest advise please?? am i being used?? Thanks

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