Thanks for "support"
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On Wed, 10 Jun 1998 01:22:20 GMT, les…@nospam.mci.net (Unhappy Step Dad) wrote: >What I also find sad, is the fact there aren’t any other men who dare >posting in here. I guess that tells you something too!
I posted here for years. Just recently started reading again. >One thing I know for sure, marrying a bio-parent isn’t for anyone…who >isn’t ready to SUBMIT to the bio’s terms and also their teenager.
I would never, never do it again. >Anyway, thank you for reading…and now I won’t bother anyone with my >"garbage" problem. They’re history, as far as I’m concerned. Maybe it >wouldn’t of happened this way if I had their cooperation. But I didn’t >have it — I was always the one who had to give in, and sacrifice my >happiness. Not anymore, and never again. >Good bye step parenting! You really have to be NUTS or v. desperate >to do it with uncooperative bio-parents and their problem BRATS!!
Have a look at my post about a good moment with ex-stepkids, if you care to. Jeffrey remove xyz to reply
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Hello, Well, I must thank all for attempting to giving me your suggestions on how to cope with my situation – living with an unpunished problem teen and his bio-mother who insists that "he’s needs must always come first." Hmmm, I’ve analyzed myself…my very OWN upbringing; I was also raised by a single mother, who took care of all my needs and I was always made felt that I was "Number ONE." I suppose, this is why now I can’t tolerate it when someone else’s needs must come before mine’s (…are you really that surprised?!) Okay, call me "immature" – if you wish – but, in that case please give me the right to also point to your being immature when you, yourself, as a bio-parent is repeating the same old mistake of raising Your kids as they would be the "center of the universe." I’m the type of outcome you’re currently raising, I guess. I was also "a boy who was raised as the center of the universe" — exactly what you, most women nowadays hate the most in men; yes, you got it: the type of "egocentric man" who constantly needs attention, time, and nurturing from their wife. So, don’t blame me, tell it to my mom instead. The point is this; if you *really* care so much for your kid, and you *really* wish him to avoid my kind of problem in his relationship with the will-be sophisticated woman of the year 2020 — this would be a great time to start to correctly raise your kid not to be "the center of the universe." On another note, "someone" in this group have associated me with a feminist woman. Hell, that couldn’t be further from the truth! Because, by all means, I’m not a fan of feminists. As a matter of fact, this is what makes me leave this group now: the majority here seems to get their kicks from repeated pointing their fingers at men as it would always be OUR fault in any relationships. From the posts I read from you, sisters, when the kid is a problem and Dad is a bio parent, then dad is "insensitive" and he needs to do…this and that. When a woman is a bio-mom, then the guy has to become "more sensitive" and see that her kids must always comes first. Is that fair? I don’t think so!! What you, women, teach here is that men are disposable in this society. Now, I can understand why there’s such a huge market for "Mail brides" out there (not that I would ever be interested, but at least now I can see the reason for it.) Why do I say that? I came at the conclusion that, most of the posts that one reads here are aimed to disqualify and point blame on "the jerk." What I also find sad, is the fact there aren’t any other men who dare posting in here. I guess that tells you something too! One thing I know for sure, marrying a bio-parent isn’t for anyone…who isn’t ready to SUBMIT to the bio’s terms and also their teenager. If a step would dare to make it known that he also has needs? you’ll quickly be labeled names, criticized and pushed out! "Kids were here first", "you can leave if you aren’t ready or if you don’t like it" etc., etc. This is also what I read behind the lines of most personal ads placed by mothers looking for "company to share" Look: if I wanted an extra job, I would of went and taken one. But I already have 3 jobs and that’s quite enough!! When I come home, I don’t need any damn "competition wars" and lectures from any of my family members, including my "woman." I’m trying to make Love…not war. And it’s gotten to the point that I’m fed up trying to please everybody and their kid and their problem for not DARING to punish him! After 3 years of trying, and trying, I’m sick of her lies and excuses. So, here are tonight news: my woman is now HISTORY. Hope she’ll like it. Now, she won’t have me to put down as a reason for not being with her "light of her life" …or whatever the hell she wants to call him! And tonight, for a change, a new woman told me how happy she would be if I can become the most important person in her life. Guess where my mind is at? a problem teen and his outrageously uncooperative bio-mom? (NO!) Anyway, thank you for reading…and now I won’t bother anyone with my "garbage" problem. They’re history, as far as I’m concerned. Maybe it wouldn’t of happened this way if I had their cooperation. But I didn’t have it — I was always the one who had to give in, and sacrifice my happiness. Not anymore, and never again. Good bye step parenting! You really have to be NUTS or v. desperate to do it with uncooperative bio-parents and their problem BRATS!! — Former Unhappy Step Dad … (tomorrow’s discriminating man.)
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