Loving women

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Getting equal status is not what I’m talking about here. What I’m talking about is misandrist propaganda that gets women to be hateful to men. What is especially stupid about women who do that kind of crap is that the men they hurt are the ones who care about women. The ones who don’t care stay away from them and go for ones that are too nice and innocent to see them for what they are. What I write here speaks to men about love. It is not about seducing women; it is about loving them. Loving a woman is an art and a science that has been poorly studied, as it was never regarded important. Women were seen as slaves. It should be regarded important; women are half the world’s population, and many of them are fabulous and very worthy of love. Very true although I don’t know if we have to get a PHD to love a woman. If you are workign that hard at it maybe you don’t have the right woman. But I am just playing devils advocate here and not attacking you outright. Just the concept of science and study and art coudl very well be turned around and we can ask how much of loving a man has been studied. I agree, women have been treated poorly and used and I am disgusted with men who disrespect woman, but, again you are making soem statements that seem a bit shaky.

What I’m saying is that most men don’t understand how to love women. I’m trying to communicate how I love the woman I’m with. We are living in a society full of hate. This hate is destroying people, weakening people, making them reach for protection of totalitarians. Our society is destroying itself in jockeying for power between men and women. But power that comes from hatred is ultimately weak. Hatred destroys itself, leaves one feeling empty, leaves one feeling needing to destroy more. It is an addiction. It is a disease. So it is a mission, of men and women who have ideals, to come together in love, and with this love for each other sustained by effort of will and guided by God’s grace construct a loving society. Nice sentiments, I can applaud but again I think you miss something. The "hate" is not purely the jockeying of men and women for power – by no means. What about racism, religious wars, wars over ladn and resources and riches – thats an awful lot of hate right there that your argument dismisses so you are over simplifying and making generalizations. Nobel ones but…

Yes, but gender hate is a big part of it. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – There is a song by a fabulous artist named Eileen Meyer that says, "Have you ever asked yourself what love would do." It is necessary at all times to ask this question: What would love do in this situation? What is the loving thing to do? What does love demand of me to do here? Christians who are not hypocrites but real followers of Christ ask themselves this question all the time: What would Christ do? Christ’s greatest contribution on earth was showing to people the ideal of what a human being can be. People can then aspire to be like Him, to calibrate all their actions by whether they resemble His, to aim at something high – something great – something perfect. Love demands of people the same effort of mind. Well, this is very good but leaves out non Christians and I think a belief and the release of hatred and ego transcends all the religions.

Here I’m using an example. What I’m advocating is that people at all times think of what is the loving thing to do, in the same way that real Christians always think what is the Christlike thing to do. I am not advocating that everyone become Christian.

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It soudns like a generalization to me. I dont think getting equal status for pay or in careers is associated with woman stopping being loving. Why do you have to associate woman being treated as equals to them having to stop being loving? I think in a subtle way that keeps the onus on women. What I write here speaks to men about love. It is not about seducing women; it is about loving them. Loving a woman is an art and a science that has been poorly studied, as it was never regarded important. Women were seen as slaves. It should be regarded important; women are half the world’s population, and many of them are fabulous and very worthy of love.

Very true although I don’t know if we have to get a PHD to love a woman. If you are workign that hard at it maybe you don’t have the right woman. But I am just playing devils advocate here and not attacking you outright. Just the concept of science and study and art coudl very well be turned around and we can ask how much of loving a man has been studied. I agree, women have been treated poorly and used and I am disgusted with men who disrespect woman, but, again you are making soem statements that seem a bit shaky. A loving relationship is a center of power. It is a merger of spirits and bodies that helps create a loving society. A loving relationship is a spiritual workout in which both man and woman aim for the good, support each other and direct their energy to doing good for others. When a man can love a woman, he has one part of the secrets of life. The other two parts are wisdom and power.

I like this, very much. We are living in a society full of hate. This hate is destroying people, weakening people, making them reach for protection of totalitarians. Our society is destroying itself in jockeying for power between men and women. But power that comes from hatred is ultimately weak. Hatred destroys itself, leaves one feeling empty, leaves one feeling needing to destroy more. It is an addiction. It is a disease. So it is a mission, of men and women who have ideals, to come together in love, and with this love for each other sustained by effort of will and guided by God’s grace construct a loving society.

Nice sentiments, I can applaud but again I think you miss something. The "hate" is not purely the jockeying of men and women for power – by no means. What about racism, religious wars, wars over ladn and resources and riches – thats an awful lot of hate right there that your argument dismisses so you are over simplifying and making generalizations. Nobel ones but… There is a song by a fabulous artist named Eileen Meyer that says, "Have you ever asked yourself what love would do." It is necessary at all times to ask this question: What would love do in this situation? What is the loving thing to do? What does love demand of me to do here? Christians who are not hypocrites but real followers of Christ ask themselves this question all the time: What would Christ do? Christ’s greatest contribution on earth was showing to people the ideal of what a human being can be. People can then aspire to be like Him, to calibrate all their actions by whether they resemble His, to aim at something high – something great – something perfect. Love demands of people the same effort of mind.

Well, this is very good but leaves out non Christians and I think a belief and the release of hatred and ego transcends all the religions. This is quite a long piece and I must go… maybe more later. Can you sumarrize it a bit? I do like where you are coming from, just pointing out what strikes me as legitimate questions about tsome of the things said here, as well meaning that they are Sterling – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Focus your mind on that which is love. And ask yourself, is what I am now doing loving? Is this consistent with love? And use all your power, and wisdom you get from people and from spirituality, to manifest love. What is love? I suppose here I will need to make a distinction between falling in love and loving someone. Falling in love is a gift. It is magic. It is an impersonal force, a divine grace, that happens to some and does not happen to others. Love, however, is an effort of will. Love is an effort of two people together to make life beautiful for each other. Love is a choice of two people to give each other tenderness, kindness and fulfilment – to support each other – and to produce something good from their love. Love can start as a falling in love, or it can develop among people as they are together. Both Western marriages that are initiated by people finding each other and Hindu marriages that are arranged by families have created some relationships that are loving and some that are not. If the relationship starts with falling in love, it needs to be sustained by ongoing effort. God gives us visions; it is our job to sustain them. The greatest error of people in the West is ongoing reliance on magic. While it is true that magic sometimes happens to bring people together, it is work that keeps them together. Love comes from only two places: You and your partner. Those are the two parties involved in love. Those are the two parties that make the choice and the effort to love. Love may start by God’s grace, but it is sustained by people making the choice and the effort of will from within. For love to work, both parties have to make this effort. It is a delicate and often difficult task. It may require a lot of thought and a lot of trial and error. It is a strenuous emotional and spiritual workout, but it is well worth it. One may make a lot of mistakes, which he has to be able to correct for love to work. If just one person is making the effort, there will not be love; there will be exploitation and abuse of that person. Here are the qualities of love. Love is about caring. Before doing or saying anything, you think of how it affects the other person and do everything to avoid hurting her. If you do hurt her accidentally, you make it up to her later. Love is about fulfilment. You make the other person’s happiness your business and help them strive for their goals while fulfilling them emotionally. Love is about self-perfection. You want to be the best you can be for the person you’re with, so you make yourself the best person you can be. Love is about honesty. You never lie to the person you’re with, and you never keep secrets. She has a right to know everything. Love is about self-discipline. You avoid temptation and stay true to the person you love. You refuse to do things that would endanger the relationship. Love is about respect. It is crucial to respect the woman’s mind and character; if one cannot respect these things one should not be in the relationship with that particular woman. Love is about self-sacrifice. You have to be willing to live or die for the person you love, to protect her and give her strength. More day-to-day, you have to forego your own short-term fulfilment, change your habits and work on yourself in order to make the relationship work. Love is about intimacy. You share in each other’s souls and emotions and strive to make each other happy. Love is about giving. You give of yourself and expect her to give of herself. You aren’t drained by giving; you enjoy giving because you enjoy seeing her happy. This is a very happy and smart arrangement. Love is about understanding. You look deep into the other person and see her motives and her circumstance and, rather than judging her, first find out what she intended and what she was facing and then decide why she did what she did at any given point and if it is a mark of a virtue or a flaw. If it is a virtue, you love her more for it. If it is an incorrect conviction, you change it. If it is damage done to the psyche, you undo it with love. If it is a real flaw or a vice, you tell her about it in a loving way; if she loves you she will make an effort to correct it. Love is about passion. You love each other completely and nurture your passion for each other each day – by figuring out what will make the other person feel best and doing it. Love is about transformation. You evolve to a better place from the place you are in with the help of your beloved. Love is never, and can never be, about stagnancy or parasitism or unconditional acceptance that lets one laze out on the couch all day and expect to be loved while the woman slaves away to be her best for you. Love is about reciprocity. You give and she gives. Both have to be giving, or else the relationship becomes abusive. To love a woman, you have to know what she wants. What do women want? Here’s my experience. A woman wants to be understood. This does not mean formulas, this does not mean psychology, this means putting oneself in her shoes. This means seeing the world through her eyes. This means sharing her feelings. A woman wants to be cherished. Like the man wants to be respected, the woman wants to be cherished. She wants to be the most important thing in a man’s life. She wants to be adored. American feminism hurt American women more than it helped them because it made them

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you ever notice that the feminist movement is about hatred of WHITE men? That black males are included in so called ‘minorities’ along with women? That the homosexual satanists who control all our advertising are constantly putting subliminal messages in them to subvert the white males authority and thereby destroy family harmony? Lesbians are insane. don’t ever doubt that.

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Ah. So once again, men are the sole problem. The vindictive, habitual, and institutionalized hatred of men by women that you see throughout the culture, media, and political reality can only be solved by changing men. That’s your point, eh? Yes, it’s true, men don’t answer back, they’re silent, so it seems easier to teach them that it’s time to jump through more hoops. You’ll find books full of hate directed against men in nearly all bookstores, stereotypical shows full of hate directed against men all over television, and deeply engrained abuse directed against men, yet never women, throughout movies. But, of course, it’s the men that have to change. Thanks again.

No, that’s not what I am saying at all. I am saying that I’m so tired of seeing people have such wrong-headed notions about relationships that lead to misery. I want to give other men what I know so that they don’t fall into that trap.

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Very interesting, and with but few exceptions one could easily exchange the words men for women and man for woman and this post would be just as true. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -For centuries, love has been considered the domain of the woman. The woman was told to make loving her husband her highest priority – to look for love, hope for love, wait for love and make love her life’s mission. Men were told to work, to fight, and to be strict fathers. This created a situation in which the loving served the un-loving, and love was a liability. Until women decided that, in order to get equal status with men, they would have to stop being loving. What I write here speaks to men about love. It is not about seducing women; it is about loving them. Loving a woman is an art and a science that has been poorly studied, as it was never regarded important. Women were seen as slaves. It should be regarded important; women are half the world’s population, and many of them are fabulous and very worthy of love. A loving relationship is a center of power. It is a merger of spirits and bodies that helps create a loving society. A loving relationship is a spiritual workout in which both man and woman aim for the good, support each other and direct their energy to doing good for others. When a man can love a woman, he has one part of the secrets of life. The other two parts are wisdom and power. We are living in a society full of hate. This hate is destroying people, weakening people, making them reach for protection of totalitarians. Our society is destroying itself in jockeying for power between men and women. But power that comes from hatred is ultimately weak. Hatred destroys itself, leaves one feeling empty, leaves one feeling needing to destroy more. It is an addiction. It is a disease. So it is a mission, of men and women who have ideals, to come together in love, and with this love for each other sustained by effort of will and guided by God’s grace construct a loving society. There is a song by a fabulous artist named Eileen Meyer that says, "Have you ever asked yourself what love would do." It is necessary at all times to ask this question: What would love do in this situation? What is the loving thing to do? What does love demand of me to do here? Christians who are not hypocrites but real followers of Christ ask themselves this question all the time: What would Christ do? Christ’s greatest contribution on earth was showing to people the ideal of what a human being can be. People can then aspire to be like Him, to calibrate all their actions by whether they resemble His, to aim at something high – something great – something perfect. Love demands of people the same effort of mind. Focus your mind on that which is love. And ask yourself, is what I am now doing loving? Is this consistent with love? And use all your power, and wisdom you get from people and from spirituality, to manifest love. What is love? I suppose here I will need to make a distinction between falling in love and loving someone. Falling in love is a gift. It is magic. It is an impersonal force, a divine grace, that happens to some and does not happen to others. Love, however, is an effort of will. Love is an effort of two people together to make life beautiful for each other. Love is a choice of two people to give each other tenderness, kindness and fulfilment – to support each other – and to produce something good from their love. Love can start as a falling in love, or it can develop among people as they are together. Both Western marriages that are initiated by people finding each other and Hindu marriages that are arranged by families have created some relationships that are loving and some that are not. If the relationship starts with falling in love, it needs to be sustained by ongoing effort. God gives us visions; it is our job to sustain them. The greatest error of people in the West is ongoing reliance on magic. While it is true that magic sometimes happens to bring people together, it is work that keeps them together. Love comes from only two places: You and your partner. Those are the two parties involved in love. Those are the two parties that make the choice and the effort to love. Love may start by God’s grace, but it is sustained by people making the choice and the effort of will from within. For love to work, both parties have to make this effort. It is a delicate and often difficult task. It may require a lot of thought and a lot of trial and error. It is a strenuous emotional and spiritual workout, but it is well worth it. One may make a lot of mistakes, which he has to be able to correct for love to work. If just one person is making the effort, there will not be love; there will be exploitation and abuse of that person. Here are the qualities of love. Love is about caring. Before doing or saying anything, you think of how it affects the other person and do everything to avoid hurting her. If you do hurt her accidentally, you make it up to her later. Love is about fulfilment. You make the other person’s happiness your business and help them strive for their goals while fulfilling them emotionally. Love is about self-perfection. You want to be the best you can be for the person you’re with, so you make yourself the best person you can be. Love is about honesty. You never lie to the person you’re with, and you never keep secrets. She has a right to know everything. Love is about self-discipline. You avoid temptation and stay true to the person you love. You refuse to do things that would endanger the relationship. Love is about respect. It is crucial to respect the woman’s mind and character; if one cannot respect these things one should not be in the relationship with that particular woman. Love is about self-sacrifice. You have to be willing to live or die for the person you love, to protect her and give her strength. More day-to-day, you have to forego your own short-term fulfilment, change your habits and work on yourself in order to make the relationship work. Love is about intimacy. You share in each other’s souls and emotions and strive to make each other happy. Love is about giving. You give of yourself and expect her to give of herself. You aren’t drained by giving; you enjoy giving because you enjoy seeing her happy. This is a very happy and smart arrangement. Love is about understanding. You look deep into the other person and see her motives and her circumstance and, rather than judging her, first find out what she intended and what she was facing and then decide why she did what she did at any given point and if it is a mark of a virtue or a flaw. If it is a virtue, you love her more for it. If it is an incorrect conviction, you change it. If it is damage done to the psyche, you undo it with love. If it is a real flaw or a vice, you tell her about it in a loving way; if she loves you she will make an effort to correct it. Love is about passion. You love each other completely and nurture your passion for each other each day – by figuring out what will make the other person feel best and doing it. Love is about transformation. You evolve to a better place from the place you are in with the help of your beloved. Love is never, and can never be, about stagnancy or parasitism or unconditional acceptance that lets one laze out on the couch all day and expect to be loved while the woman slaves away to be her best for you. Love is about reciprocity. You give and she gives. Both have to be giving, or else the relationship becomes abusive. To love a woman, you have to know what she wants. What do women want? Here’s my experience. A woman wants to be understood. This does not mean formulas, this does not mean psychology, this means putting oneself in her shoes. This means seeing the world through her eyes. This means sharing her feelings. A woman wants to be cherished. Like the man wants to be respected, the woman wants to be cherished. She wants to be the most important thing in a man’s life. She wants to be adored. American feminism hurt American women more than it helped them because it made them unloveable. This made it impossible for men to cherish them and denied the women their most important psychological need. It hurt American men as well, but that was its intent. A woman wants to be empathized with. Women go through life taking care of everyone. They need someone to share themselves with emotionally to replenish their emotional resources. If it’s not going to be her man, it’s going to be her children who’ll love her more than you, or her female friends who will have her greater loyalty than you, or the priest, or – worst case scenario – another man for whom she will leave you or with whom she will be tempted to have sex. You can attack all these people, or you could prevent her from seeing these people, but that will just make her wretched. Love never allows for such a thing. Love empathizes. A woman wants to be with someone whom she can respect. Many men think that women respect strength and abuse women to prove it. This is a fallacy. True strength is about self-control and direction of strength in a way that is constructive. A man who has true strength will never abuse the woman he’s with. She is his, she loves him, it is idiocy to abuse her. Pashtuns, the group from which came the Taliban, believe that a man who does not beat a woman has no penis; they were cowards who, when faced with real power of the Americans, scattered like sheep. Such is the character of the abuser. He is a weak, craven, contemptible bully who needs to beat someone smaller than him to prove his strength. Such actions will never earn lasting respect; what will earn respect is real inner

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – For centuries, love has been considered the domain of the woman. The woman was told to make loving her husband her highest priority – to look for love, hope for love, wait for love and make love her life’s mission. Men were told to work, to fight, and to be strict fathers. This created a situation in which the loving served the un-loving, and love was a liability. Until women decided that, in order to get equal status with men, they would have to stop being loving. What I write here speaks to men about love. Ah. So once again, men are the sole problem. The vindictive, habitual, and institutionalized hatred of men by women that you see throughout the culture, media, and political reality can only be solved by changing men.

maybe u should reread the statement. this is not about blaming men but about everybody taking responsibility. in my study of americans over the years i have had it told to me many times how wife beating is good for the wife. i have had many men tell me this. they also tell me how its ok for them to commit adultery because they have been saved and therefore cant sin anymore. this is completely absurd. we are all sinners. we strive to do better and we fail, yet the real chrisitians get up and go again. by the way many women that i have spoken to over the years that have been beaten by their boyfriends or their husbands believe that the man is doing the right thing because they love their husbands and dont want to come against them. then we can factor in alcohol and drugs and these scenarios take on even more directions. i didnt read that men were being blamed but maybe men need to start to take responsibility for their actions instead of using the Bible to justify them. with this being said i have spoken to many people in the united states that are not chrisiitans and they do the same thing. That’s your point, eh? Yes, it’s true, men don’t answer back, they’re silent, so it seems easier to teach them that it’s time to jump through more hoops. You’ll find books full of hate directed against men in nearly all bookstores, stereotypical shows full of hate directed against men all over television, and deeply engrained abuse directed against men, yet never women, throughout movies. But, of course, it’s the men that have to change. Thanks again. A truly cool book: The World Is Already Yours Conscious living in the real world www.alreadyyours.com (sample chapter, etc…)

– Love is all u need.

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For centuries, love has been considered the domain of the woman. The woman was told to make loving her husband her highest priority – to look for love, hope for love, wait for love and make love her life’s mission. Men were told to work, to fight, and to be strict fathers. This created a situation in which the loving served the un-loving, and love was a liability. Until women decided that, in order to get equal status with men, they would have to stop being loving. What I write here speaks to men about love. It is not about seducing women; it is about loving them. Loving a woman is an art and a science that has been poorly studied, as it was never regarded important. Women were seen as slaves. It should be regarded important; women are half the world’s population, and many of them are fabulous and very worthy of love. A loving relationship is a center of power. It is a merger of spirits and bodies that helps create a loving society. A loving relationship is a spiritual workout in which both man and woman aim for the good, support each other and direct their energy to doing good for others. When a man can love a woman, he has one part of the secrets of life. The other two parts are wisdom and power. We are living in a society full of hate. This hate is destroying people, weakening people, making them reach for protection of totalitarians. Our society is destroying itself in jockeying for power between men and women. But power that comes from hatred is ultimately weak. Hatred destroys itself, leaves one feeling empty, leaves one feeling needing to destroy more. It is an addiction. It is a disease. So it is a mission, of men and women who have ideals, to come together in love, and with this love for each other sustained by effort of will and guided by God’s grace construct a loving society. There is a song by a fabulous artist named Eileen Meyer that says, "Have you ever asked yourself what love would do." It is necessary at all times to ask this question: What would love do in this situation? What is the loving thing to do? What does love demand of me to do here? Christians who are not hypocrites but real followers of Christ ask themselves this question all the time: What would Christ do? Christ’s greatest contribution on earth was showing to people the ideal of what a human being can be. People can then aspire to be like Him, to calibrate all their actions by whether they resemble His, to aim at something high – something great – something perfect. Love demands of people the same effort of mind. Focus your mind on that which is love. And ask yourself, is what I am now doing loving? Is this consistent with love? And use all your power, and wisdom you get from people and from spirituality, to manifest love. What is love? I suppose here I will need to make a distinction between falling in love and loving someone. Falling in love is a gift. It is magic. It is an impersonal force, a divine grace, that happens to some and does not happen to others. Love, however, is an effort of will. Love is an effort of two people together to make life beautiful for each other. Love is a choice of two people to give each other tenderness, kindness and fulfilment – to support each other – and to produce something good from their love. Love can start as a falling in love, or it can develop among people as they are together. Both Western marriages that are initiated by people finding each other and Hindu marriages that are arranged by families have created some relationships that are loving and some that are not. If the relationship starts with falling in love, it needs to be sustained by ongoing effort. God gives us visions; it is our job to sustain them. The greatest error of people in the West is ongoing reliance on magic. While it is true that magic sometimes happens to bring people together, it is work that keeps them together. Love comes from only two places: You and your partner. Those are the two parties involved in love. Those are the two parties that make the choice and the effort to love. Love may start by God’s grace, but it is sustained by people making the choice and the effort of will from within. For love to work, both parties have to make this effort. It is a delicate and often difficult task. It may require a lot of thought and a lot of trial and error. It is a strenuous emotional and spiritual workout, but it is well worth it. One may make a lot of mistakes, which he has to be able to correct for love to work. If just one person is making the effort, there will not be love; there will be exploitation and abuse of that person. Here are the qualities of love. Love is about caring. Before doing or saying anything, you think of how it affects the other person and do everything to avoid hurting her. If you do hurt her accidentally, you make it up to her later. Love is about fulfilment. You make the other person’s happiness your business and help them strive for their goals while fulfilling them emotionally. Love is about self-perfection. You want to be the best you can be for the person you’re with, so you make yourself the best person you can be. Love is about honesty. You never lie to the person you’re with, and you never keep secrets. She has a right to know everything. Love is about self-discipline. You avoid temptation and stay true to the person you love. You refuse to do things that would endanger the relationship. Love is about respect. It is crucial to respect the woman’s mind and character; if one cannot respect these things one should not be in the relationship with that particular woman. Love is about self-sacrifice. You have to be willing to live or die for the person you love, to protect her and give her strength. More day-to-day, you have to forego your own short-term fulfilment, change your habits and work on yourself in order to make the relationship work. Love is about intimacy. You share in each other’s souls and emotions and strive to make each other happy. Love is about giving. You give of yourself and expect her to give of herself. You aren’t drained by giving; you enjoy giving because you enjoy seeing her happy. This is a very happy and smart arrangement. Love is about understanding. You look deep into the other person and see her motives and her circumstance and, rather than judging her, first find out what she intended and what she was facing and then decide why she did what she did at any given point and if it is a mark of a virtue or a flaw. If it is a virtue, you love her more for it. If it is an incorrect conviction, you change it. If it is damage done to the psyche, you undo it with love. If it is a real flaw or a vice, you tell her about it in a loving way; if she loves you she will make an effort to correct it. Love is about passion. You love each other completely and nurture your passion for each other each day – by figuring out what will make the other person feel best and doing it. Love is about transformation. You evolve to a better place from the place you are in with the help of your beloved. Love is never, and can never be, about stagnancy or parasitism or unconditional acceptance that lets one laze out on the couch all day and expect to be loved while the woman slaves away to be her best for you. Love is about reciprocity. You give and she gives. Both have to be giving, or else the relationship becomes abusive. To love a woman, you have to know what she wants. What do women want? Here’s my experience. A woman wants to be understood. This does not mean formulas, this does not mean psychology, this means putting oneself in her shoes. This means seeing the world through her eyes. This means sharing her feelings. A woman wants to be cherished. Like the man wants to be respected, the woman wants to be cherished. She wants to be the most important thing in a man’s life. She wants to be adored. American feminism hurt American women more than it helped them because it made them unloveable. This made it impossible for men to cherish them and denied the women their most important psychological need. It hurt American men as well, but that was its intent. A woman wants to be empathized with. Women go through life taking care of everyone. They need someone to share themselves with emotionally to replenish their emotional resources. If it’s not going to be her man, it’s going to be her children who’ll love her more than you, or her female friends who will have her greater loyalty than you, or the priest, or – worst case scenario – another man for whom she will leave you or with whom she will be tempted to have sex. You can attack all these people, or you could prevent her from seeing these people, but that will just make her wretched. Love never allows for such a thing. Love empathizes. A woman wants to be with someone whom she can respect. Many men think that women respect strength and abuse women to prove it. This is a fallacy. True strength is about self-control and direction of strength in a way that is constructive. A man who has true strength will never abuse the woman he’s with. She is his, she loves him, it is idiocy to abuse her. Pashtuns, the group from which came the Taliban, believe that a man who does not beat a woman has no penis; they were cowards who, when faced with real power of the Americans, scattered like sheep. Such is the character of the abuser. He is a weak, craven, contemptible bully who needs to beat someone smaller than him to prove his strength. Such actions will never earn lasting respect; what will earn respect is real inner strength, combined with love and wisdom, that allows you to be a unit with her for doing good. The essence of love is this: the merger of souls. You see her soul and she sees your soul, and you merge your souls together. Modern psychology likes to say that there is no such thing as a soul and viciously attacks anything soulful. Mainstream religion likes to attack the soul as well, as it sees man as having to … read more »

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